Through The Static

July 8, 2008

Before you say “I do…”

Filed under: Culture,Love — ausaydong @ 8:06 pm

No matter how much I would like to deny it, Maureen Dowd’s columns are kick ass.

Her column today, minus much of her usual nastiness (probably because a majority of the article is advice from Catholic Priest Father Pat Connor, a much nicer fellow), offers some good insight on what to look for before tying the knot:

“Hollywood says you can be deeply in love with someone and then your marriage will work,” the twinkly eyed, white-haired priest says. “But you can be deeply in love with someone to whom you cannot be successfully married.”

“Never marry a man who has no friends,” he starts. “This usually means that he will be incapable of the intimacy that marriage demands. I am always amazed at the number of men I have counseled who have no friends. Since, as the Hebrew Scriptures say, ‘Iron shapes iron and friend shapes friend,’ what are his friends like? What do your friends and family members think of him? Sometimes, your friends can’t render an impartial judgment because they are envious that you are beating them in the race to the altar. Envy beclouds judgment.”

No mama’s boys (or daddy’s girls):

“Is he overly attached to his mother and her mythical apron strings? When he wants to make a decision, say, about where you should go on your honeymoon, he doesn’t consult you, he consults his mother. (I’ve known cases where the mother accompanies the couple on their honeymoon!)”

And probably the best:

“Don’t marry a problem character thinking you will change him. He’s a heavy drinker, or some other kind of addict, but if he marries a good woman, he’ll settle down. People are the same after marriage as before, only more so.”

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1 Comment »

  1. I like reading Maureen Dowd’s columns too. Pretty good advice on the marriage stuff.

    Comment by disciplepete — July 9, 2008 @ 8:10 pm | Reply


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